Too Much Emotional Investment Is Harder

To Control Than You Think

We all have felt this at least once in our lifetime. Whether in ourselves or the person we are with. The feeling of too muchness.

And then came the hardest thing, never receiving or giving the same in return.

I have always been the too much guy.

So in this article, I would like to share the feeling of giving too much or in some cases all of our emotions to someone else, who we think means everything to us, we want to make them our sun, and around them our entire solar system will revolve.

And the next thing you know, the sun ran away, leaving our universe in the blinding darkness.

Now, from my personal experience, I can say that too much emotional investment is not in our control. It’s simply the bottled up emotions that we have kept inside our heart since we were little, coming out at once like a nuclear missile and dropping onto the person whom we think or hope is the right word, is our perfect partner or in a lovey-dovey term, soulmate.

Honestly, it’s neither party’s fault.

One has stored up years of unexpressed emotions, and another is simply not equipped to handle such intensity, not only from the start but in any phase of our lives.

Unlike other articles that you can find online, I am not gonna tell you how to handle it or regulate it from childhood because I know all of our circumstances are different, and some of us don’t even realize we are bottling up all of our emotions, be it small or big, until it’s too late.

A society, a family that always teaches you about a certain manner, a certain control in life, how can you, despite your best wishes can regulate it without guidance if everyone around you is as hard as a rock.

Which later in life results in turbulent connections in romantic relationships.

One partner who doesn’t know anything other than too much or no emotions at all, and the other who has all along regulated their emotions since they were a child. From the get-go go they are incompatible.

Now I might suggest you find a person who shares your wavelength. I myself have tried that didn’t work out so well. Because I was trying to build a relationship based on honest emotions and open communication with her, while she was a prisoner of her past, still trying to bottle it up.

So then the variable that came into play was mindset. Recently, I found a better way to channel these emotions into hobbies.

Yes, I know how it sounds

How can hobbies replace a relationship?

Well, that is it. Hobbies are not replacing relationships. Hobbies are ways to compartmentalize those bottled-up emotions.

You must have felt it at least once. When you do something you truly love and reach a milestone you never have before, you will have a sense of ascent, a sense of release. That release is a form of channeling your emotions.

Then, when you come home and are with your partner and open that bottle of untapped emotions, you will be able to control how much of it you pour into her.

This is how I have started to survive recently, and yes, it feels good. Or more specifically controlled.

Do let me know your thoughts in the comments!

Thank you for staying until the end!