Something That I Recently Observed!

Often time when something doesn’t go our way or something goes wrong we just implode. Especially if it happens because of someone else.

We say whatever comes to our mind without even thinking for a moment about who we are saying this to. Or the type of person they are, their background, their history with us. One mistake and in that moment we behave like all of its over. We forget about composure or the persona we try to maintain and just go full atomic.

Then few days or a few weeks later when that problem is solved we calm down and start behaving normally even with that particular person. Well, our problem is solved and we are okay.

But do we ever think about that other person?

The hurt they felt?

It is said words hurt more than a slap. And that leaves a scratch on the soul.

Now I am not going to ask you to control yourselves. I have said in my previous post that all of our emotions are valid and we as human beings have the right to release them.

But all I ask is not to forget who you are and the type of person you are at that particular moment. Because in good times the test of resilience doesn’t occur, it occurs when we are at most lowest.

Most importantly rather than focusing on what happened we should focus on what’s next.

And believe me, the moment you stop focusing on the problem and start finding a solution that rage and hurt will be channeled into a meaningful and determined way.

Now just an anecdote to prove that I am not giving you all heavy advice without any substance. But it is a lesson from my own life. My mother is like this. She always goes haywire when things don’t go her way but the moment things are done she is back to normal like nothing ever happened. I say good for her.

But what about the people near her?

Me, her own family, siblings etc. They not only feel the heat but also get hurt. And that creates a negative perception.

Which I think is not worth it. In the end that overreacting didn’t generate any results but only pushed people away who genuinely cared for her.

There are various other ways to release the tension mostly by yourself, as doing it in front of others doesn’t exactly yield any positive results except your value goes down in their eyes. Not to mention it sparks hidden grudges.

This is it! Do let me know your opinion or if you feel the same.

Thank you for staying until the end!